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Being Content in a World with the Temptation of Wanderlust: Biblical Truth of Identity and Contentment
Anyone ever feel defined by the experiences you have had? Or the places you’ve been? In today’s world, with social media we are constantly reminded of what we don’t have because we see someone else sharing their latest purchase they’ve made or the recent extravagant trip they just went on.
Personally, I like to think that I’ve seen a lot in the world as much as 23 year old can see. I feel like I have seen awesome parts of the world, on my own and with my husband. I’ve been out of the country and to some awesome cities in the US. But is it enough? Do you ever get the feeling of “Oh if I go there I will be satisfied and content” or “ I can die happy because I’ve been here and there.”
I definitely get that sense of wanderlust of wanting to go and see new places all the time! But I think its time for me to have a reality check and start pouring truth into my life!
I am writing this blog right after a weekend to NYC with my husband. We had an amazing time and ate some amazing food until our bellies were full. Sitting in bed with my pups right now and feeling the baby kick in my belly- I feel content. I feel like that wanderlust was satisfied this weekend…for now. So how do we handle those feelings of discontentment when that wanderlust is really getting at us?!
I don’t know about you reading this but I cant afford multiple trips to Europe each year. If you can props to you! But most of the time we see early 20’s to late 20’s posting pictures on Instagram about their awesome trips here and there, but most of y’all are fresh out of college! Like me for example! I have only been out of college for 7 months. I received an average degree and just this year really began pursuing my photography business. If you are reading this then I am with you, I get those same feelings of “Ugh, how does she get to go all the time?” or “Wow, I wish I could go there.”
But I feel like I need to stop beating my self up about it. You should too.
And stop putting my identity in the amount of places I have traveled or the cool experiences I’ve had and start reflecting on what I am doing right now, where I am, to make best version of myself as possible.
Please don’t take this the wrong way if you are able to constantly go and see new things! I want that for me and my family- but in reality its not going to happen consistently.
Aaron and I are have began our budget this year for 2018. We are planning for a baby, saving our emergency fund, and are in the process of getting a house. But we are also accounting for trips we would like to take/putting a little away each month. Which for me, helps satisfy that need to travel- because in the back of my mind I know that we may not be taking a huge trip this year but down the road we are saving and planning for that dream trip! And you never know what could happen, one of our cars could die, we could have something medically happen and may need to use that little travel fund- but hey that’s why we budget! A huge shout out to my mother in law for starting me on it- its honestly changed my life and would never go back to the life of no budget! I probably should write a blog on how to budget and how to get points for travel. (We’ll see)
I think that a lot of people my age are very eager to go and do now because of the fear of settling down. I don’t want you think that I am speaking for every 23 year old out there but after talking to friends that are in completely different phases in their life that is the vibe that I am getting. I have also been there! I think my generation needs to learn to slow down and plan. It’s definitely not as exciting and glamorous but its affordable and practical, and if you are like me planning helps satisfy that need and want to travel. Don’t get me wrong- still be spontaneous in life! Try a new restaurant, dye your hair, or something crazy! Just don’t feel inadequate if your idea of being spontaneous isn’t going to an airport and just choosing a random flight- because you arent financially and ready to do something crazy like that!
Remember that truth that I was talking about that I needed to start pouring in to my life, well here it is:
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” -Matthew 6:25-26
“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” –Philippians 4:12-13
“But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.” -1 Timothy 6:6-7
“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” -Galatians 2:20
These verses help me so MUCH because it reminds be that I am more than what I have seen or where I have been! My identity is in Christ. My identity is being a photographer, a social worker, a wife, a friend and soon to be mom. These things are just as important and should be highlighted more on social media! People should brag more about those roles they are in on social media because even if you don’t think they are glamorous they are YOU and it is what is shaping you!
Like I said before please don’t be offended by this post if you can afford to travel- we are all blessed in many different ways! And please don’t think that I am a hypocrite when you see Aaron and I go to the Caribbean next year, LOL! (Seriously so excited) But please know that we plan and are going for cheap. I want people on here and for the sake of my business to know the real me and to be as transparent as possible for my readers/clients. I wish I could say that traveling comes easy to us- but it doesn’t, so I never want to live a false life on social media. It definitely is easier now that we aren’t newly weds, because it takes time! Maybe it will come easier down the road, but for now we are happy with our weekend trips and trips that we plan a year/years from now! And when I struggle with that discontentment I will turn to the verses, which I encourage you to do as well!
Anyone else feel this way? Or is it just me and these crazy hormones? Lol! Let me know! I just want people (and myself) to go easier on themselves.
Pretty new at blog posts that aren’t photography centered, so go easy on me!